Contributors: Betty Butch & Tawney Seren
The holiday season has arrived! Whether it snuck up on you, or you’ve been counting down the weeks with joyous anticipation, the holidays are here – and so are the best deals on sex toys!
Sex toys can make excellent gifts to eagerly consenting recipients. They provide new and unique sensations. They shake up routines and encourage sexual exploration. They heighten pleasure and intimacy.
When you’re done shoveling snow, honoring holiday traditions, or indulging in tasty seasonal treats, sprawling out in bed (or the bath) with a new favorite toy will the height of bliss. Sex toys – with or without a partner – can transform your pleasure routine year-round.
Pleasure is worth putting at the top of your list. And we have plenty of suggestions! Gifts for yourself, presents to share with partner(s), and toe-curling orgasms await you in our 2019 Gift Guide!
Gifts for solo play
Holiday shopping can be such a whirlwind! By the time you’ve worked through your list, you might realize you’ve forgotten someone important: yourself. This year, prioritize self-care by putting yourself at the top of your holiday To-Do List… in more ways than one.
In your quest to treat yourself, check out some of 2019’s most popular new releases. These great toys are classics in the making.
We-Vibe Melt: Smaller and with a softer nozzle than most air pulsation toys, the We-Vibe Melt is comfortable to hold and envelopes your clit with ease. But just because it’s little doesn’t mean it doesn’t have some muscle – the Melt’s powerful suction-like sensations make for some toe-curling orgasms!
Hot Octopuss Jett: The Jett is truly unique: two powerful bullets rumble and massage you to orgasm while strapped in with snug, stretchy silicone that can accommodate soft or erect cocks. Control the Jett’s 5 patterns with the remote, then set it aside for hands-free ecstasy.
b-Vibe Anal Training & Education Kit: Skip the guesswork and confidentially explore anal play with B-Vibe’s comprehensive introduction to butt stuff. Three plugs in different sizes (with different functions to enjoy), a lube applicator, an enema bulb, and a detailed beginner’s guide will lead you through your booty journey!
FemmeFunn Ultra Wand: Wands are generally the most powerful vibrators available. The Ultra Wand takes wand level power and puts it in a smaller, flexible body for easier handling. And it’s waterproof for bathtime fun!
Velvet Thruster Mini Teddy: Teddy is a handheld fucking machine that delivers up to 125 strokes per minute (wow!), and has a suction cup so you can get creative about positions. If Teddy’s 1.5-inch width isn’t enough to satisfy, buy it bundled with a Vixskin Sheath for a squishier, 2-inch girth.
Fun Factory Manta: Pliable silicone wings flutter and stroke your shaft with 12 different vibration settings. The Manta can be used as a stroker, or held in place to vibrate all your most sensitive areas. And it’s waterproof!
nJoy Wands: Sleek, heavy stainless steel fashioned into curves that will stroke in all the right places no matter your anatomy and can be cooled or heated for erotic temperature play. The Pure Wand, Fun Wand, and the hulking 11 are all fan favorites – and they’re sure to become yours, too.
Gifts to Use with Partners
Gifts meant for two (or more) are the gifts that keep on giving! Whether you want to enhance intimacy or explore new sensations together, there’s a toy intended for partnered use that can carry you through. Strap-on harnesses, massage kits, position aids – there are countless ways to treat your partner(s) and yourself at the same time. And what’s more romantic than that?
We-Vibe Discover Gift Box: New to toys and not sure where to look? Looking to expand your sex toy collection with some of the best toys out there? The Discover Gift Box has a little something for everyone, including the most sought-after bullet vibe on the market (the We-Vibe Tango), a couple’s vibe for penetrative sex, a touchless air pulsation toy, and more.
We-Vibe Moxie: Magnetically clip the Moxie to your underwear and pass the remote (or open the app) to let a partner take control of the vibrations. Transform date night with strong, rumbly vibrations that tease and please unseen.
Temptasia Harness Briefs: Want a simple, comfortable introduction to strap-on sex? Temptasia Harness Briefs (sizes S–5X) are cute, easy to wear cheeksters, and their stretchy o-ring can accommodate a majority of dildos. Pair them with the Temptasia Twist Kit for pegging and penetration beginners!
Performance Gauge Pump Pistol Kit: Blush Novelties has pumping cylinders for penises, nipples, vulvas, clitorises, and breasts – all of which can be used interchangeably with the Performance Pump Pistol. Customize your pumping explorations by getting this pump and picking which attachments you and your partner(s) want to try first.
Wet for Her RockHer: The RockHer can be worn two different ways: either spreading to give easier access to the clitoris while massaging the g-spot; or anchoring inside while providing a bulbous vibe for mutual grinding. Scissoring just got a whole lot more fun!
BMS PalmPower Extreme: Not only can wands be used on any body (try it sometime!), the PalmPower Extreme has an angled head that can be utilized during penetrative sex. Slide it in place and let everyone involved enjoy the powerful, rumbly vibrations.
SpareParts Joque: Reviews on Peepshow have called it “the harness to end all harnesses” and “the last harness you’ll ever need.” The Joque is comfortable, form-fitting, machine washable, and can be used in the bath – and that’s the kind of versatility anyone can appreciate.
If you’re on a budget, you might think the best sex toys are out of your reach – but there are actually quite a few amazing toys available at lower prices! Whether you’re after core gifts for less, or just need some stocking stuffers suggestions, the following toys will make a big impact on everything but your wallet.
Exposed Nocturnal: This bullet vibrator might look small and unassuming, but its incredibly powerful vibrations can rival the Tango. It’s also waterproof and rechargeable, so bath time and batteries can’t stop you!
Neo Elite Dildos: Though the complexity of dual density dildos (firm inside, soft outside) usually makes them more expensive, the Neo Elite line is jaw-droppingly cheap – and even more jaw-droppingly vibrant!
Pillow Talk Sassy: Sassy’s strong, rumbly vibrations, effective g-spot curve, and comfortable handle are appealing enough. But Pillow Talk’s also dressed it up with a glittering Swarovski crystal, quilted silicone, and pretty metal accents – it’s a dazzling gift!
Saffron Paddles: Spanking on a budget? The Saffron line has you covered! Four different paddles offer four unique sensations, and each of them are finished in a sensuously vibrant red.
FemmeFunn Ultra Bullet: Bullet vibrators are a sex toy staple. The Ultra Bullet enhances the concept by being thick, flexible, and finished with soft silicone. It’s also wickedly strong and rechargeable.
Avant Pride: Bring a little extra Pride into the bedroom with a toy from the Avant Pride line. Featuring Pride flag colors from across the spectrum and beyond, every toy has a flared base so it’s safe to use wherever you choose!
Blush Impressions: A vibrating dildo with a powerful motor, suction cup, and sleek silicone finish… for under $60? Somehow Blush has made it possible with their Impressions line, which features a number of unique insertable shapes.
Gifts for Relaxation
Gifts intended to titillate and stimulate shouldn’t be the only pleasure products on your list. The holidays can be stressful! Shopping, family traditions, cooking, shoveling snow, religious gatherings, corralling your extended family and friends – there’s lots to do! A treat to help you and your partner(s) unwind can make or break a long winter day.
Sliquid Soak Bubble Bath: Love long, sexy baths, but hate how some ingredients can irritate your most delicate skin? Sliquid – makers of the most recommended lube in the industry – have a moisturizing bubble bath solution just for you.
Earthly Body Edible Massage Candle: Light a candle to set the mood, and then use the luxuriously warm oil from the tin to massage your lover into a fully relaxed state. Now you can lick away the cherry or strawberry flavored oil to tease and awaken both your senses.
The Butters Original Lube: The Butters isn’t just a long-lasting, oil-based lube made – by hand – with natural ingredients. It can also be used as a moisturizer, shaving cream, and more! If you’re about to do a lot of traveling, the Butters can cover multiple self-care bases so you can do more while packing less.
Organica Kissable Massage Oil: This edible, non-greasy massage oil tastes like chocolate and glides like silk over skin. It can be heated up in hot water for a sensuously warm massage that’s sure to calm the senses.
Olivia Boudoir Bubble Bath: Moisturizing, pleasantly fragrant, and packaged in an elegant glass bottle, this bubble bath from Olivia’s Boudoir is sure to wow its recipient. Celestial Water, French Vanilla, and Rose Petals are just a few of the spa-level fragrances available in color-coordinated glass.
Gifts for Folks with Penises & Prostates
Are you looking for the perfect gift to steam up your partner’s personal play or your own? Strokers, penetrables, and prostates galore! We cannot ignore these pleasurable, powerful, and attention-grabbing toys that are perfect for those with a penis.
Aneros Eupho Syn Trident Prostate Massager: Featuring Multi-Axial Motion Architecture, a feature that allows this toy to move side-to-side as well as up and down and in and out, providing a perfect internal massage to urge you to a prostate orgasm! It’s comfortable, discreet, and hands-free, perfect for those who are looking for a slim toy and a hands-free play that will leave you wanting more.
Fun Factory Manta Vibrating Penis Stroker: With flexible, silicone wings that nestle around your shaft for stroking or to rest at the base of the cock for a vibrating good time, the Manta is a beautiful toy with a great many pleasurable possibilities. This toy has ridges for extra stimulation and is fully waterproof so don’t be afraid to take it anywhere with you!
Squarepegtoys(R) Egg Plugs Supersoft: With 9 different sizes to choose from, it’s easy to obtain a plug that’s perfect for your needs and experience! Supersoft silicone not only makes these perfect little plugs easily insertable, but fantastic for training or long-term wear. So whether you’re looking to begin your anal adventure or an experienced player wanting to stretch, these plugs have just the size you’re looking for.
Control by Sir Richard’s Twin Turbo Stroker: Vibration, heating, and stroking - this toy does it all! There are two powerful motors in this toy that provide ‘surround sound’ vibration and a boost button that takes you immediately to the highest speed for ultimate pleasure. Waterproof and easy to clean, this stroker is one that should not be passed by.
Blush Novelties Performance Go Pro Silicone Cock Rings: Silicone is a fantastic, stretchy material that is perfect for cock rings, no matter your experience level. Resting at the base of your cock to enhance stamina and intensify your orgasms, these small, inexpensive additions are perfect for both couples play and solo adventures!
Oxballs Ergo Firmer Silicone Butt Plug: Shaped for ultimate comfort, this Oxballs plug is a beautiful swirl of colors and meant to provide firmer pleasure. Coming in three different sizes, you can choose from slightly below average to a full, stretched sensation. Also, the T-bar base sits comfortably between your cheeks for long-term or short-term wear!
Happy Sak Moisture Control Ball Fresh Lotion: Aside from the toys, there’s one product that demands attention and promises comfort. The Happy Sak Ball Lotion is a body-safe, anti-chafing lotion that can be applied to not only the balls, but also feet and anywhere else you experience chafing (especially the scrotum!) Keep yourself feeling fresh and dry all day long with this exceptional lotion!
Gifts for Kinksters
Kink comes in all kinds of flavors – and so do the people who enjoy it. There are countless ways to indulge your fantasies, from sexy role play and spankings, to power exchange and games of pleasurable overstimulation. If your partner(s) are as enthusiastic about the possibilities as you are, picking kinky gifts together is a great way to close out the year – and start the next with adventure in mind.
Kink Beginner Bondage Kit: Feeling curious about kink but not sure where to start? This kit includes nipple clamps, bondage cuffs, a blindfold, and a three-strap slapper in matching leather with regal brass accents: a stylish start to your kinky explorations.
Zalo Rose Ball Gag: Sexy, classy, and gorgeous, the Rose Ball Gag fashionably elevates kinky play with its luxury Italian leather and gold-colored fastenings. The rose is removable, giving you access to the wearer’s mouth at your leisure.
Spartacus Word Band Collar: Collars can inspire feelings of ownership, humiliation, or sensual thrill – and one bearing the word “SLUT” will likely stir all three. Set the mood and embrace your submissive side with this adjustable leather piece.
Saffron Cuffs: These sturdy, vegan leather cuffs have a soft interior so you can squirm and strain without worrying about breaking your gear. They can be used together or clipped onto something else – like a spreaderbar or your belt loops – so you can customize your bondage experience.
Temptasia Nipple Twist Suckers: Wrap your nipples and/or clitoris in exquisite pressure by turning these Twisters as tight as you please. If you don’t enjoy the pinch of clamps or the complication of pumping, these are a perfect compromise!
Silicone Dog Bone Gag: Have you been good this year? Because only good pups get this bone-shaped gag to chomp on while they’re getting the rest of their treat! Silicone straps make this gag comfortable to wear and easy to clean.
Dragon Kiss Whip: Not necessarily for beginners but also not so complicated that it takes a pro to wield, the Dragon Kiss Whip is deliciously imposing. This whip is truly unique, with an easy grip handle, and twin leather straps that give strikes twice the snappy sting.
The Realm Sword Bundle: Role playing can be a powerful aphrodisiac and take your pleasure to new heights… and so can dragons. Conquer The Realm and take command of your court with this dragon dildo and ornate sword handle.
Gifts for the Jetsetters in Your Life
Whether it be for work or for pleasure, traveling is a chance to unwind and get away from the stressors in your home and everyday routine! Bringing toys or gifting them to those in your life that love a new adventure can not only be a way to further relax during travels, but also spice things up while on vacation. So bury your feet in the sand, pack a bag, and send yourself and your jetsetting friends off with some of these amazing gifts!
Womanizer Liberty Pleasure Air Clitoral Stimulator: The Liberty is a travel-friendly toy that can be easily tucked away with a hygienic cover that not only gives the toy a discreet look, but ensures nothing gets turned on during the journey. Rechargeable and waterproof, this is a toy that’s sure to help make the trip memorable and pleasurable!
Le Wand Chrome Collection Deux: This eloquent vibrator is sleek and powerful, providing 15 different vibrating modes, each with 6 intensity settings! It’s waterproof, slim, discreet, and comes with a storage back and travel lock function so there’s no fear that it will go off in your bag.
Earthly Body Tasty Travels Gift Set: Each item in this fun set is in a bottle small enough to throw right in your carryon and is certain to bring a new level of pleasure to the trip. This back is complete with Waterslide Moisturizer, Edible Massage Oil, Edible Massage Candle, Love Button Arousal Balm, and comes in either strawberry or watermelon flavor!
OhMiBod Esca 2 App-Controlled Wearable Vibrator: Looking for something you can use and control with your partner through an app over long distances? This powerful internal vibrator has countless different settings that provide an adventure for both yourself and your partner during travel. Remind them you’re thinking of them while they’re away!
Sliquid Shine Organic Tea Tree Toy Cleaner: When you’re traveling there’s a lot of potential for things to get a bit messy. It’s important to take along a toy cleaner to ensure your toys stay squeaky clean and free of bacteria and fungus! Travel-friendly and water soluble, this toy is the perfect companion for your most loved toys both at home, and during your adventure.
Gifts for Groups/Events
Talking sex with our friends can be a difficult subject to introduce depending on your friend group. However, once you do, it can be found to be not only a way to get closer to each other, but can produce laughter and fun for the entire night! Whether you’re throwing a bachelorette party or just having a get-together with some close comrades, check out these gifts perfect for any event in need of some steam!
Adult Charades Party Game from Kheper Games: This is an XBIZ award-winning game that is very much for adults as you act out things like “Doggystyle” and “Horny Devil” amidst the laughter of your friends. There’s no limit to the amount of people that can play this game of charades, making it perfect for whatever party you are hosting or as a gift!
12 Drinking Games of Christmas: For a fun gift with 12 games in one, this inexpensive gift will leave you in stitches! Whether you enjoy drinking during the holidays or you know someone that does, this game is sure to get the party started with games such as “Christmas Categories” and “All I Want for Christmas is my 2 Martinis”.
Party Truth or Dare: Are you looking to walk away from the tamer games and dive right into the wild side with your friends? This adventurous game is perfect for four or more players and ensures you’ll get closer with everyone involved, and perhaps learn some secrets along the way. A twist on the traditional Truth or Dare, this is a game everyone can easily play and will surely bring them back for more!
Let’s F*ck! Board Game: This game is perfect for a smaller group of 2-4 people that aren’t afraid to let things get a little steamy. If you’re looking to spin your way around an erotic board with the intention to get to the featured sex position with your partner(s), this is the perfect game to add some foreplay to your sexy party!
There’s no rule that says your cozy winter reads can’t be blisteringly hot. Erotic, instructional, or both, books on sex can fill a shelf, stuff a stocking, and inspire new ways to spend all the cold nights ahead. Whether it’s a gift for yourself, a lover, or your polycule’s book club, there are plenty of page-turners to choose from…
Come As You Are: Widely considered to be the definitive guide on cis women’s sexuality! Nagoski’s Come As You Are is an accessible deep dive into the not-so-mysterious mechanics of women’s pleasure.
Big Big Love: Thorough, inclusive, and body-positive, Big Big Love is an encouraging, instructional look at having a great love life as a fat person. Hanne Black offers the sex talk that plus size folks don’t usually get, including advice, illustrations, and tips on everything from sex positions to BDSM.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: This book was authored by a sex educator, a medical doctor, and a disability activist – ensuring its relevancy, accuracy, and inclusivity. Covering a wide span of disabilities and disability-related sexuality needs, The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is exactly what its title promises.
The Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex: Written for straight cis couples, The Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex covers all things pegging for curious beginners. Violet Blue details picking the right gear, finding and pleasuring the prostate, and more.
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A comprehensive, reassuring guide on most things lesbian: how to find a lover, safe sex methods, ways to negotiate and give pleasure, and more.
Powerful Toy Lovers
Are you looking for something that puts the other toys to shame? Is power of utmost necessity during your solo or couple’s play? Put down the little vibrators and get ready to rev up because these toys do NOT play around. You will not be disappointed by the intense pleasure and peaks that can be reached when you grab one of these delightful products.
Magic Wand Rechargeable Cordless Vibrator: The Magic Wand is a toy that’s whispered about across the lands. Powerful vibrations erupt from the silicone, bulbous end of the toy, making it perfect for couple’s play, solo play, and deep aching muscles.
FemmeFunn Booster Bullet Ultra-Powerful Vibrator: With 20 different, strong functions to choose from, the Booster Bullet even comes with a memory function so you can save your favorite speed for next time! Waterproof, USB rechargeable, and a boost button that takes you to the fastest speed with just a touch, this toy is not one to be underestimated.
BSM PalmPower Extreme Ultra-Powerful Massaging Wand: This is the newest and strongest vibrator brought to you by BMS, including 7 different, intense vibrations with deep, bone-rattling power! Stronger than the previous wands, the PalmPower Extreme may not be waterproof but it can be switched to an Incremental speed that allows you to find and reach your desired intensity with ease.
Nu Sensuelle Baelii Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator: 20 different vibrating functions to play with, the Baelii is waterproof, curved for G-spot stimulation and so powerful it will travel along the floor. Trap it before it escapes and relax into the mind-warping intensity of this handheld vibrator. The Baelii also features a memory function that allows you to return to the last function you used during play so you never lose your favorite spot!
Tawney Seren is an author, sex educator, and reviewer that loves educating others and herself about the big world of sex. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her husband and doggo, writing to-do lists, and eating candy.