Deep-Throat Dildo Training
Do you want to Deep Throat a dildo for fun, or to practice giving blowjobs?
I’ve done both, and want to give a few tips on how to use a deep throat sex toy. How much length can you take safely? And how do you choose a deepthroat dildo? First, my favorite blowjob dildos & deep-throat trainer toys:
Best Throat Dildos & Plugs
- Realistic, lengthy 1st dildo: Neo Elite 7.5 Inch Dildo. All-around realistic feel in body-safe silicone. 7 inches usable length; smaller head is good for less gagging. Good suction cup.
- Super-soft, bendable: Real Supple 8.25 and 10.5 Inch Dildos. Squishy & very slick outside, these are a pleasure to run your tongue over. Under the silicone is a core that will bend with the back of your throat. Good suction cups. 8.25" Real Supple has 6" insertable, a good starter length; 10.5" Real Supple has 8.33" insertable length.
- Deepest deep-throat dildo: The Slim Deep-throat Dildos by SquarePegToys. The Slim original and Slim Plugged both have over 10" usable length, so they are real deep-throat dildos: entering the esophagus if you take 'em all the way. Go slowly, starting at 6", then 8", until you can ease up & take the full length, like when holding in the Slim Plugged. (More tips, next.)
- Practice having something in your mouth: Slim Utility Plug #1. This is the best length for teasing the back of the throat: Can you keep it in and get comfortable with it tickling your uvula? Also good for Dom/sub play.
I find that semi-soft sex toys are the best for the back of the throat, as they won't hurt. Silicone is the material of the soft sex toys above, the best because it doesn't pick up bacteria and germs: Read Peepshow's guide to "body safe" materials on this page.
Also, when you're doing long with a dildo, it's easier if it's not too thick - so, choose slimmer toys, under 2 inches diameter.
How to Deep Throat a Dildo
Is deep-throating fun? Some people really like giving oral—even deeper oral, which is a skill that takes training to achieve.
Gag Reflex Training
The first key to giving deeper blow jobs or taking a long dildo is learning to recognize and work with your gag reflex. This is a normal bodily function that helps us if we get a larger piece of food stuck in the back of our throat– we will cough it out, to not choke on it. But here we’re trying to do something different: take safe objects down the throat, and have fun doing it.
So gag suppression takes practice. Most important: The more you do it, the better you’ll be at it. So, practice, practice, practice.
It’s also helpful to learn to recognize when you feel a choking sensation coming on. Acknowledge the need to gag, and you may not be able to actually do it: Not need to act on your gag reflex at that moment.
But, some things are just too deep for us at any given moment. For instance, someone who’s new to deep-throat sex probably won’t be taking 8 inches deep right away. (Did you know the average oral cavity length is only 4 inches on average before the pharynx (back of throat), vs. the average penis length at 5.5 inches?) So it’s also important to work within your limits. Here are a few more tips for having more control and coordination with the deep throat training:
Pre-game: Be well hydrated, you don't want to begin with a dry mouth! Drink some water first.
#1. Make sure you are the controlling actor. This is the default when you use a dildo, since it’s not gonna move itself around. But if you’re working with a human penis, then it’s better for you to be on top, controlling how much length you’re taking, vs. letting them thrust into your mouth.
#2. Choose a comfortable position. If deep throating a dildo, a suction cup toy can be helpful here. You stick it to the wall, and decide how far forward (toward the dildo) you’re going to move. This is actually easiest if you’re on your knees, versus standing up. You might try sticking the dildo onto a door while you’re on your knees below. If you’re with a partner, you can have them lay back on the bed comfortably, and put a pillow under their back for a better lift for you, so you’re not leaning over so far (which constricts your throat more).
#3. Take it more slowly, lick it, play with your tongue. It’s best to not have all your foot attention focus on the back your throat, because that would make you more likely to gag. Deflect attention away from that area by running your tongue, over the dildo in circles, licking under the head, or tightening your lips around the upper shaft, and stroking downward with your lips.
#4. Use your hand to do some stroking at the lower shaft, and give your throat a break for a minute or two if it starts to feel overworked & too "choked up".
#5. Don't stress, enjoy. Working your way up may take several months, depending on how much you’re playing with the deep throat training. I also recommend having fun with the process, and not getting too focused on an end goal of taking a certain length. Do what you can, as long as you're enjoying.
How deep can you go?
Once you get past about 6 inches on average, you're into esophageal play. Your dildo will be passing into the esophagus, a tube that leads down into the stomach. It has two different sets of sphincters, with bands of muscle to prevent you getting in.
The upper esophageal sphincter is 6 to 7 inches inside your mouth typically, and this is the biggest obstacle for early deep-throat training. If you recognize the word "sphincter" you might have heard it about anal sex; it's a term for a band of muscles that can tighten or relax. There's one right inside the anal canal, and another sphincter before the colon (also usually around 7 inches inside that cavity). But, back to the mouth: Training to relax the esophageal sphincter is a process too, and can become expert-level.
It is possible to deep throat a dildo, like a long tentacle toy, as far as over 20 inches inside. A more cautious length is simply passing the UES, to about 10 inches internal depth. (I've gone that far and feel no extra benefit beyond!)
Esophageal play can be done safely, if you practice with care. But, avoid it if you have any preexisting issues with your throat, acid reflux, etc. My thanks to Peepshow Toys for emphasizing safety, and remember to not play too deep when under the influence of any substances since your perception and reaction time can be impaired.
In general, how many inches to take a deep-throat toy is a personal choice, and seeing an 8-incher slide down the throat is an excellent show that can be fun & safe play.
Author: Derek is a bi, kinky exhibitionist from northern New Jersey. Fueled by espresso & a love of sex toys, he's excited to share his experiences more in the future and welcomes feedback via comments below: "What do you want more of?"
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